Blogging has been around for just over 15 years and since that time it has evolved massively. Now there are blogs for every possible category you could think of. In my profession I have worked with DIY, Lifestyle and Fashion bloggers. Women of all ages and young girls flock to their favorites and follow along as these bloggers write out bits of their life.
The key word in that statement is "bits".
It's so easy for us to look at these women who appear to always be perfectly put together. Their babies are perfectly groomed and wearing the best and most unique clothing. They are wearing designer everything and if they aren't, they are looking perfect in their workout clothes because they have time to work out everyday. Their husband is not only handsome and dresses like he walked out of a J Crew magazine but he has an amazing job that allows him to take their family on extravagant vacations, buy her adorable gifts, and spend endless hours with their babies.
I might be medium exaggerating but f'real that's how it appears right?
Last night I was chatting with my momma and we discussed a growing problem among women and young girls -- comparing their life to these popular bloggers. The young girls are under the belief that these "bits" of their life is the whole story. Women and fellow mothers are browsing through the blogs/instagrams and comparing themselves, their husbands and their messy faced babies and wondering how they could ever keep up.
Here's the thing. It's not the whole story. You don't see the disaster behind the lens. You don't see the tantrums thrown by babies before the photo. You don't see the arguments these couples surely have. You don't know what lengths they had to go to to get those babies into their life. You definitely don't see the stretchmarks and struggles with self image as these moms adjust to a new body.
You don't see the pig sty of a craftroom, the unmade bed, the PILES of laundry waiting to be folded or put away (Who is with me? I HATE putting it away.) If you were to look at the camera roll, do you know how many photos that are sorted through to find the perfect photo?
As my sweet friend put it, our blogs and our instagrams are simply our highlight reel. That's exactly what it is. It's not that these women are purposely trying to make other women feel inferior, these are just the bits of life that they are comfortable showing you.
You see the "perfect" vacations, but you don't see how hard they saved to make it happen, or the debt they went into for it.
You see the "perfect" clothes but you don't see that they were given them to promote the company.
You see their "perfect" marriage and "perfect" babies but you don't know what happens behind closed doors.
When we look at these "perfect" lives I hope we are able to always keep in mind that this is just a moment for them. A perfect bit but it's not the whole story.
Here's what I'm getting at.
The trick to a perfect life is seeing the perfect in what you have been given.
We are all blessed, given hardships and blessed again. Find the perfect bits in your life and cherish the rest of the mess too.
Lets get real with each other and share our disaster behind the lens more often. Want to share? #disasterbehindthelens